Hiatus

Sorry to disappoint, but I'm taking a much-needed mental health break today and am not discussing LO's behavioral challenges nor our recent efforts at thwarting them. No news is good news, right? Right.

Instead, I offer you the most lame post ever written. I happened to grab a Happy Meal for LO yesterday (it's been eons since we've frequented the local McDonald's establishment), and rather than ask for a girl toy (it was a tiny My Little Pony that I knew she wouldn't have anything to do with), I asked for a boy toy, which happened to be a truck of some sort (talk about making LO's day).

After she finished her lunch, I opened her toy and discovered this:

That's a pretty awesome, cool-looking, exciting little plastic truck, huh? Geez. Then I looked further and found these:

Seriously? Who in their right mind has that kind of time or energy or patience to sit and peel off all of these tiny stickers? Really. And seriously, where are they supposed to go? Next slide, please.

Ya. There's your diagram. Hope you didn't have any plans for this weekend or next for that matter. Ohmyword. Thanks, McDonald's.

I obviously chose to give LO the truck and stickers so she could let her little imagination run wild and do with those tiny stickers whatever she wanted. Good times.

And, just because he's so totally cute, here's a pic of what Chase was doing while I was grocery shopping this morning before we had to pick LO up from school:

Ain't he the cutest?

Promise I'll return tomorrow with the next post in my series of our current crazy life. :)

Parenting 101: Executing the Plan

Hubs and I officially started executing the our game plan with LO based on Dr. Kevin Leman's book, Have a New Kid... by Friday, late last week. Let me tell you, it's been interesting to say the least. To give you a little glimpse, LO went 3 straight nights without eating/finishing her dinner.

It was insane.

I tried a new approach as mentioned in the book. See, family dinners together are a daily staple in our home. But Leman suggested dining family style. In other words, place all of the food on the table so each person can serve themselves (I always make all of our plates in the kitchen and then bring the plates to the table). This way, LO is provided with the opportunity to put as much of each item on her plate as she'd like. In hindsight, I didn't really think things through well enough because I made a variation of -- get this -- Shepherd's Pie for dinner that night. I've never made it before (ground beef, veggies and mashed potatoes in one casserole-type dish), and quite frankly, it was NOT very good. Anyway, I let LO dish it onto her own plate and not surprisingly, she only placed a morsel or two on it. No biggie. I also had sliced strawberries in a small bowl that she dished onto her plate as well. She had finished the strawberries in record time, but when it came to the rest of her dinner, she wasn't too pleased. She made ONE comment. One. I'm not even sure what it was... I think she was just playing with her food and then said, "I don't like it!" without even trying one bite. I got up, calmly took her plate, fork and cup to the kitchen, and dumped the remains on her plate into the trash can. She immediately got upset and started talking very ugly to me, and without a word from me, she got up, pouted and stomped into her room, angrily mumbling something about being MAD!

Hubs and I continued to enjoy our dinner with Chase, talking, laughing and having a good time. LO continued to wail for a few more moments, then came back into the dining room.

LO: "Mommy. I'm still hungry and I want my dinner." (said very angrily and matter-of-factly with arms crossed).
Me: "Oh, I'm sorry, LO! You said you didn't like your dinner and got upset and got down from the table. You know once you get down from the table, you're finished. You can have something to eat in the morning for breakfast." (said happily with a HUGE smile on my face).
LO: "Ugggggghhhh!" (pouting, angry, arms crossed, stomping back to her room)

She came back out a second and third time. The third time, she was somewhat remorseful and tried the puppy dog eyes and told me, "But mommy, I'm still hungry." It truly was the saddest thing. The "old me" would've probably given in and told her she had one last chance to sit down and eat. But the new me told her, essentially, "Too bad."

She was obviously distraught and looked somewhat confused by the events, but didn't really catch on to it. The next night was essentially a repeat of the one above. And the third night was as well.

Finally, on the fourth night, we were able to have a successful, happy, relatively quiet dinner as a family of four. It was awesome. And the way she'd look at me when I stood up to get more milk or another napkin... she'd immediately put her arms around her plate as if I were about to swoop in and steal it from her mid-meal! I had to chuckle at that... Haha!

The same philosophy applied throughout the day. One afternoon, she asked for a snack in her usual way: "Mommy, may I please have a snack please, Mommy?" (she gets extra points for redundancy). I got her some grapes and a cup of water, and set them on the kitchen table. I told her that I placed her snack on the kitchen table and she could sit in her chair and eat it. She responded by saying she didn't want to eat it at the kitchen table, she wanted to eat it at the coffee table so she could watch TV. Without a word, I walked over to the kitchen table, picked up her grapes and tossed them into the trash and dumped her water into the sink. That obviously elicited quite a response from her. She was NOT happy. After she calmed down, she asked me why I threw her snack away. I explained to her that I asked her to sit at the kitchen table to eat her snack and she did not listen to me, so she lost the opportunity to have a snack. I told her she wouldn't have anything to eat until dinnertime.

It's so very unusual for me to respond this way to LO. Seriously, any time she wanted anything, I would get it for her in a heartbeat. She was not at all expecting me to stop letting her have her way 24/7. It was all so unexpected in her little eyes.

Truthfully, I think what was the most unexpected was her behavior over the next several days. Dr. Leman stated, "If your child is thrashing as he comes out of the water, you'll know you're on the right track." Well let me tell you, if LO's behavior was any indication at all, we were definitely on the right track... but how long would things have to be worse before they'd start to get better?

Stay tuned! I plan to share more of LO's horror stories and, hopefully, a light at the end of the tunnel!

Parenting 101: Time for Change

As I mentioned yesterday in the first post in this series, hubs and I were at the end of our rope with LO's recent behavior. It was time for a change.

A BIG change.

((Let me apologize now for this L-O-N-G post. I didn't expect it to be quite so lengthy, but hopefully it'll be a quick and easy read for those of you who decide to forge ahead.))

Let me set the scene for you. LO's preschool teacher sends home a class newsletter each Friday. Included in the newsletter each week is a special section for the principal to share some insights for parents. About two weeks ago, I noticed in the principal's section, she had shared a quote from Dr. Kevin Leman's book entitled, Have a New Kid... by Friday.

I thought to myself: A new kid? By Friday?!

Yes, please!

A few short moments later, I found myself on Amazon purchasing said book. Really, what did I have to lose? Things couldn't get any worse, and maybe this $13 book would be the answer to our problems.

When the book arrived (2-day shipping for free... Thank you, Amazon Prime!), I immediately opened it up and started reading through it at lightening speed. If nothing else, this book is a quick and easy read, which really, it should be considering it was written specifically for parents who don't have the time to read for leisure because they're too busy dealing with their frustrating, havoc-wreaking, disobeying children! The book is comprised of short chapters, one for each of the 5 weekdays, Monday through Friday. I want to share with you my take on the gist of each chapter as well as my thoughts/concerns about implementing the strategies on our unsuspecting 3 1/2 year old (NOTE: This is where the post becomes quite lengthy!).

Monday

Notable quotes:

1. "Children are masters at manipulation. Don't think they're not manipulating you."
2. "Kids do what they do because they've gotten away with it!"
3. "Your child's behavior has everything to do with you."
4. "If you want your child to take you seriously, say your words once. Only once. If you say it more than once, you're implying, 'I think you're so stupid that you're not going to get it the first time, so let me tell you again.'"

New strategy:

1. Say it once.
2. Turn your back.
3. Walk away.

My thoughts:

1. Say it once? Come on, people. What do you take me for? Do you know how many times I have to ask LO to stop trying to push her brother down before she actually listens? At least 62 times. And that's only when combined with either (a) the threat of taking one of her toys away from her or (b) some kind of physical interaction (i.e. moving her brother away from her) or (c) BOTH! And sure, it makes sense that by telling her something over and over again, it sends the message that we don't think she's capable of "getting it" the first time, but her behavior tells us we're not far off-base!
2. Yes, I fully realize she's manipulating us. I have no doubt of this. She is her father's daughter. I've heard stories of hubs' childhood that make me shudder in fear. I think this particular truth is one I'll keep reminding myself of as we institute changes recommended in this book (so I won't feel like the world's worst parent).
3. I have no doubt that LO thinks she can do (or not do) anything and say (or not say) anything simply because we've never truly disciplined her in a way that translated as discipline in her little 3 1/2-year-old brain. We have our work cut out for us.

Tuesday

Notable quotes:

1. "The top 3 long-term concerns of parents have to do with a new kind of ABCs: Attitude, Behavior and Character."
2. "The key to changing your child is changing your attitude."
3. "If the doctor says, 'You responded to your medication,' that's good. If the doctor says, 'You reacted to your medication,' that's bad."

New strategy:

1. Let reality be the teacher. Don't rescue your kids from the consequences of failed responsibility.
2. Learn to respond rather than react. Don't let your emotions get the better of you and don't speak or act without thinking first.
3. B doesn't happen until A is completed. If you've asked your child to do something and it's not done, you don't go on to the next event -- no matter what that event is.

My thoughts:

1. I couldn't agree more that our interest lies in the long-term goals of parenting -- raising children with the attitude, behavior and character we believe will aid in them developing into contributing members of society.
2. Wow. How tall are these strategies to measure up to, specifically to respond rather than react? I'm sorry, but have you had to fight with your 3 1/2 year old for 30 minutes just to get her to go potty before bedtime? How can you not lose your patience with that situation and react emotionally, especially when her brother is already in bed and she's making enough noise with her defiance and complaining to wake the entire neighborhood?
3. I was happy to see the ideals of letting reality be the teacher and that B doesn't happen until A is completed. I feel like we're already utilizing these strategies with LO, but I have no doubt that we haven't been as consistent with them as we need to be in order for them to be effective.

Wednesday

Notable quotes:

1. "What your children think about you at any one particular moment isn't necessarily what they will think about you for life."
2. "Your child needs not only your attention but also a relationship with you!"
3. "Being happy all the time isn't real life, and you're not being fair to your child if you're providing a continual Disneyland experience."

New strategy:

1. Determine what kind of parent you are: Permissive, Authoritarian or Authoritative.
• A permissive parent is a slave to the child; places the priority on the child, not on his or her spouse; robs the child of self-respect and self-esteem by doing things for her that the child can do for herself; invites rebellion with inconsistent parenting.
• An authoritarian parent makes all decisions for the child; uses reward and punishment to control the child's behavior; runs the home with an iron hand, granting little freedom to the child.
• An authoritative parent gives the child choices and formulates guidelines with him; provides the child with decision-making opportunities; develops consistent, loving discipline; holds the child accountable; conveys respect, self-worth and love to the child and therefore enhances the child's self-esteem.

My thoughts:

1. Wow. What an eye-opening chapter this turned out to be! I think I can safely say that I am without-a-doubt a permissive parent and hubs is an authoritarian parent. No wonder LO is so confused! I always expected hubs and I to have differing parenting styles, and I always assumed that dynamic would be beneficial to our ability to parent our kids. But I guess I never really thought about the negative impact that would have on our kids.
2. I do believe we both try a lot of the authoritative parenting techniques often, but eventually we both resort to our ingrained approaches and that just adds to the confusion.

Thursday

Notable quotes:

1. "Every child lives up to the expectation you have for him."
2. "Want to empower your children? Give them responsibility."
3. "Praise links a child's worth to what she does. Encouragement emphasizes the act."

New strategy:

1. Respect your children:
• Never do for them what they can and should do for themselves.
• Don't repeat your instructions.
• Expect the best of them.
• Don't praise them.
• Encourage them.
2. Help your child develop the key pillars of self-worth:
• Acceptance
• Belonging
• Competence

My thoughts:

1. We're really getting down to the heart of the matter today, now aren't we? Respect your child? My focus has always been the other way around, so I know for a fact this concept has been neglected in our household. It's so simple and makes so much sense.
2. Expect the best, get the best. How poignant! I need to remember to expect the best from my children, in all things, all the time. I don't want to build up their self-esteem at the cost of their self-worth! The book mentioned that praise focuses on how "good" a person is while encouragement focuses on an action. And I know I've continually caught myself doing things for LO that she's more than capable of doing herself, but she just never does it my way. Or she makes a big mess when she does it. Or whatever. I need to let go of that mentality and support her in developing her own self-worth.

Friday

Notable quotes:

1. "Children who have been allowed to have their own way for a while can be extremely powerful."
2. "If your child is thrashing as he comes out of the water, you'll know you're on the right track."
3. "Friday is FUN DAY -- the day you decide to go for it! You're going to launch your game plan on your unsuspecting children."

New strategy:

1. The Top 10 list of what it takes:
1. Be 100 percent consistent in your behavior.
2. Always follow through on what you say you will do.
3. Respond, don't react.
4. Count to 10 and ask yourself, "What would my old self do in this situation? What should the new me do?"
5. Never threaten your kids.
6. Never get angry.
7. Don't give any warnings.
8. Ask yourself, "Whose problem is this?"
9. Don't think the misbehavior will go away.
10. Keep a happy face on, even when you want to... do something else.

My thoughts:

1. Whew! How about that? All of the strategies and principles one needs to raise a child, right there in black and white. Who knew it could be so easy? Right. It's easier said than done, obviously. But I feel empowered to a degree that maybe, just maybe, Dr. Leman slipped me the other team's playbook under the table. Little Miss doesn't know we're on to her. And boy is her kingdom about to experience some massive changes. I guess that means it's time to get started!

If you made it this far, thank you so much for humoring me and following along on our journey! Stay tuned tomorrow for my next post in this series. It's the one where LO doesn't see what hit her. ;) Bwahaha!

Parenting 101: Trouble is Brewing

This is the first in a series of posts I'm writing this week about the ever-elusive art of child-rearing. ((Do I need to stop here and point out that I am in no way, shape or form an expert on this subject? I would hope for my existing readers, that's pretty much a certainty understood by us all.)) I hope you come along for the ride and maybe learn a thing or two from our mistakes experiences!

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I don't know about you, but my first-born child did not come with a "How To" manual, regardless of how much I wish it were so. We did the best we could as first-time parents, but ultimately, we took all of the authority in our family, wrapped it in a tiny little pink box with a pretty little bow and presented it right away to that beautiful, brown-eyed baby girl on the day she was born. Not knowingly, of course. I mean, really, who would turn over all power and control to a helpless, hours-old infant, regardless of how wonderfully she smelled or how sweet her little noises?

Not surprisingly, hubs and I have been challenged lately by our sweet LO's behavior. Granted, she's now 3 1/2 years old. Behavioral problems are bound to happen at this age. But it started to seem like things were getting out of control. The line of authority in our home continued to blur and it seemed Little Miss Thing truly was the one wearing the pants in the family, calling all the shots.

It started out innocent enough...

• LO: I don't want water with dinner, I want milk!
  Us: Okay. No big deal. Here's some milk.
• LO: I don't want to eat that for lunch!
  Us: Okay. No big deal. Here's a PB&J instead.
• LO (swiping a toy from Chase): But I was playing with that first!
  Us: Okay. Here, Chase. How 'bout you play with this instead?

Now, of course there were some things she'd put up a fight about that we wouldn't give in on...

• LO: I don't wanna go to bed!
  Us: It's 9pm. Go to bed, kid.
• LO: I don't wanna wear my coat!
  Us: It's 12 degrees outside, kid. Put it on.
• LO: I don't need to go potty!
  Us: Sit on the pot, kid, until something comes out.

When it came to her (and her brother's) health and safety, you can bet your britches (never said that in real life before... is that a southern saying? Weird.) we would lay down the law and do whatever was necessary to get her to comply.

But as for the day-to-day stuff? It started wearing on hubs and I. Big time.

The morning routine on school days was a nightmare. She wouldn't want to get out of bed. She didn't want to brush her teeth. She didn't want to wear "that" shirt because it was itchy. She would make all kinds of loud noise in the bathroom, which was right next to Chase's room (where he was still asleep).

Dinnertime was worse. Without even so much as knowing what was on her plate, she'd formally announce that she didn't like it and wasn't going to eat it. This is where hubs and I, the submissive, not-even-slightly-in-charge parents, would begin jumping through every hoop she'd toss our way to get her to eat her dinner. Some nights I'd just throw down a PB&J in front of her to avoid the fighting altogether. Other nights, I'd expect her to eat what I made for the rest of us. Hubs and I would try to make a game out of it, or threaten her with the loss of one of her favorite toys or games, or that she wouldn't get any dessert, etc. Then we might resort to some skill-building exercises like pleading with her to "just eat 4 bites of corn, 2 bites of chicken, etc..." We never got anywhere with her and dinnertime was complete and total chaos, night after night.

Whoa.

Now I know some of you are thinking. This just sounds like typical 3- or 4-year-old behavior... You just have to deal with it... She'll grow out of it eventually... Every parent has been through it... blah, blah, blah.

I don't agree with any of that. I believe she is knowingly and purposefully manipulating mommy and daddy to get her way because... get this... it's all she's ever known. Think about it. At what point do you stop catering to your newborn baby's every whim? At what point do you begin to teach responsibility? Discipline? Respect? Character?

We obviously hadn't hit that point over the past three and a half years. But we're there now.

The only question left is...

What do we do about it now?


Stay tuned tomorrow for the next post in this series!

New Series

Hey, guys! I just wanted to let you know that I'm working on a little series of posts for next week about an exciting topic that is very near and dear to me. In fact, if you have any children, specifically of the preschooler variety, I believe you'll find this series to be interesting and thought-provoking. If you don't have any children, or they haven't yet turned into a superfreak of nature (a.k.a. preschooler), then you'll probably find the series humorous... mostly because I'm the one dealing with it, not you!

Have a great weekend!

And stay tuned!

Sigh. . .

I guess I owe you all a post about the future of this little blog of mine. I promise there's nothing overly profound in what you're about to read. Just straight-forward, honest and to the point.

You might recall the poll I posted last week as part of my post about the blog's future, asking you readers what I should do next. Nine of you said keep things the way they are, and four of you thought I should create a separate blog for Chase but still maintain this one. The other 82-ish of you who read the post didn't take the opportunity to share your opinion by choosing a little radio button and submitting your vote. I am extremely grateful to the 12 of you who commented on that post, encouraging me to follow my heart and do whatever makes me happy. After all, this is my blog and I should feel free to share whatever I want to without worrying about the repercussions of others being upset or offended by what I write.

So, without any further ado, I shall hereby proclaim my intentions regarding the future of this blog...


(((drum roll please)))


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Uh, I'm just gonna keep it the same.

((utter silence & disbelief))

Shocking revelation, right? I told you so. It seems to me I just like my blog and I like writing about whatever strikes my fancy, and at the end of the day, you guys have the choice to read it or not read it! So simple, right?

I like to cook and bake. So yes, there will be recipes shared here.

I like to shop. So yes, there will be new finds and (non-paid) product endorsements here.

Most importantly, I love my family. So yes, there will be lots of pics and videos of the kids, updates on my sweet boy's precious heart, lots of LO's antics, and any other happenings in my family's life that I feel like sharing.

After all, it's my blog. I can do whatever I want, even if that means doing nothing different or new at all!

Obviously I did makeover the look and feel of the blog, and I hope you like it! I absolutely love it and had so much fun learning some new tricks of the web design/development world since I've been out of touch with it for so long.

So I guess that's that. I hope you'll stay tuned and keep up with our little piece of the world. But it's cool if you have other stuff to do instead. I'm not all about trying to please everybody all the time anymore!

:)

Happy 15 Months!

So that little chunk of pure sweetness right there? See him?

Ya. He's 15 months old today! Yay!

Happy 15 Month Birthday to my sweet boy!

Oh, and for the record... don't think I haven't been reading those comments some of you left me about how he's not a baby anymore, he's growing up into such a cute little toddler, etc... you know who you are.

Say what you will, but he's my baby.

My precious little baby.

And he always will be!

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And yes, I'm a loser mom because in the excitement of sharing my new blog look yesterday, I neglected to post birthday wishes to my dear LO.

Happy 3-1/2 Birthday to my precious girl!

I'd be lying if I said she wasn't a handful 24/7, but somehow she manages to warm my heart and make me smile on a daily basis. I just love this girl!!!

A New Look!

After seemingly endless hours of anticipation, I'm finally able to share the big reveal... of my new blog design!

Ain't she purdy?

I hope it was worth the wait! I've been working on a new design for several days now and am really excited about what I've come up with! A special shout-out to my SIL for her inspiration along the way.

I was hoping to unveil the new look Monday morning, but here's what happened. The family headed up to Asheville, NC for the weekend so I could play the piano for a weekend retreat for our SC district Church of the Nazarene pastors and spouses (an honor and oh so much fun!). While hubs was unloading the mass of stuff from our vehicle in 24 degree weather, there was an unfortunate mishap:

My beloved MacBook met the pavement.

It was an accident, obviously. And hubs? He. Felt. Awful.

Turns out the hinge where the lid opens and closes ended up with two small cracks. Luckily all of the data was still good and there were no other issues.

So this morning I took my dear, sweet MacBook to our local Apple-certified repair store--no, not The Apple Store--and ((shudder)) had to leave her there all day. Not overnight (thank goodness!), but all day.

Now she's back and so pretty! I ended up with a new hinge thingy as well as a brand new keyboard and trackpad (there was a manufacturer defect that had caused some peeling on the edge of my MacBook near the trackpad, so the whole durn thing was replaced at no charge!). We were very blessed that the repairs to the cracks that were caused from the MacBook vs. Parking Lot incident were under $100. That was so unexpected! Our Googling told us we'd be looking at close to $200 for parts, then about $90/hour for labor, with typically 2 hours for the repair (that's just under $400 for you non-math-wiz's like me).

What a blessing!

So anywho, I'm excited about the new design and I hope you like it, too. It looks mighty fine in Firefox and even Safari, but I'm afraid it loses a little something when viewed in IE for all my PC-user friends (really, you should get a Mac).

I'm also looking forward to sharing my thoughts on the future of Just Another Day... later this week. Stay tuned!

First Steps... sort of

For the record, I'm still totally excited to share something with you guys, but due to circumstances beyond my control, I have to delay it by a day or two. So sorry to pique your interest and leave you hanging! I promise it wasn't intentional...

In the meantime, I thought I'd attempt to tide you over with a clip of my boy taking some steps! They aren't technically his "first" steps (he's been taking several independent steps in a row for days now), but this is the first time I'm sharing them with you so technically they are the first steps you've seen. :)

Here he is in his 5 seconds of glory! Enjoy!




Posted from my iPhone

Ooooh!

Oooooh! I've got something exciting in the works...

Looking forward to sharing it with you guys soon!!!

Woot! Woot!

A Haiku

Why do I worry?
Why am I in constant fear?
He knows what's ahead.

Uncertain future,
Afraid of the pain of loss.
Leave it in His hands.

Enjoy each moment.
This is a blessed life we live!
Praise His holy name!

Woot! Woot!

So here's an exciting announcement that I know all of Blogland has been dying to hear... Get ready! Your life will finally be complete once you hear this proclamation...

Hubs and I beat Super Mario Bros. Wii!!!

Yay! We've been playing in the evenings after the kiddos are in bed, and it has been, well, interesting to say the least! While we both have plenty of experience with the ol' Super Mario Bros. trilogy on the original Nintendo, we both seem to have different "styles" of play. Hubs is the cautious one. He wants to explore every pixel of the screen and investigate each nook and cranny of every world to find every single hidden treasure. He takes his time. He's cautious.

I, on the other hand, am the fly-by-the-seat-of-my-overalls, run as fast as possible, kill everything in sight and get to the flag as soon as I can kind of player. I throw hubs' caution to the wind. I get 'er done!

((Side note: I just came to the strange realization that hubs and I both seem to approach life in a similar manner in which we approach Super Mario Bros. Weird, right?))

Imagine playing in a two-player scenario with two people who couldn't be more different in their approach. Imagine all the fun! Haha! It was a blast, and I was SO impressed with hubs since HE was the one who finally, officially, after both of us tried and failed miserably many, many, many, maaaaaaannnny times, was able to defeat Bowser at the end of World 8. Woot!

We were stoked to find out there's a hidden World - World 9 - that you can gain access to by going back and retrieving ALL of the Star Coins in each World. Phew! I think it's going to take us longer to collect all of the Star Coins than it did to beat the whole game in the first place! Sheesh!

But I don't care. It's fun! And believe it or not, it's been quite a learning experience! I never knew hubs was "that guy" that literally, physically leans his entire body (along with the remote) to the right when trying to make a big jump during the game. Hysterical.

Family Fun

Since hubs was off work Monday and LO didn't have school, we decided to take the kids out for a little fun! We went straight to our local Chuck E. Cheese, mostly because LO loves that joint and hubs and I can manage to put up with it for an hour or two (as long as it's not "too" busy). We pulled into the parking lot and it was minivan central! Haha! Apparently since there was a day off from school, the entire county decided Chuck E. Cheese was the only place to go!

Whatevs.

We headed in and the fun began! It was so wonderful to see both of my kids playing and having fun. It's so easy to take things like trips to Chuck E. Cheese in the middle of cold/flu/RSV season for granted, but we cherish outings like that and are so grateful our boy is healthy enough to do things like that! He is SUCH a blessing and I cannot thank the Lord enough for His provision over Chase. I don't like the uncertainty looming over our heads right now (early spring cath possibly followed by an early summer Fontan!?), but I know God knows what He's doing, and it's our responsibility to trust Him and put our faith in Him.

Sorry for my little soap box speech... didn't mean to get off topic. Just reminding myself really of how blessed we are and how amazing our son truly is!

Without further ado, let's see some pics!

She's so excited! Ready to play!

Seriously. The girl is excited.

Riding with her pal, Chuck.

She LOOOOOOOVES riding this horse! We could hardly get her to take turns with the other kids!

This boy. He's my love! It felt SOOOOOOO good to see him doing "normal" things like LO did at his age. Such joy!

He had a blast! It was SOOOOOOOOOO wonderful to see! Such a big boy!

Weeeeeeeeeeeeee!

Big sister liked the slide, too!

A little too much fun for this boy! He was O.U.T. before we left the parking lot! LOL!

Blackmail Day

Because I'm such an obnoxious great mom, and because Chase just happened to find LO's box of dress up clothes, I decided to take advantage of the opportunity and take some blackmail photos of Chase. Yep, folks, that's just the kind of mom I am!

Um, I'm not too sure about this, Mommy...

Oh, okay. Ya, I'm cute, I know. It doesn't matter what I'm wearing, does it?! SMILE!

But maybe we can lose this thingy on my head, Mommy? It itches!

I don't like it! I don't like it!! Get it off! Get it off!!! Daddy, help!!!

Bwahaha! Good times!

LO wanted to get in on the photo shoot, so of course I got some great pics of her, too! I'm pretty sure these can be used for blackmail as well...

She designed the outfit herself. I know -- surprising, right?

I asked her to pose for the camera, and this is what I got! LOL!

Another awesome pose. I think she's channeling the Statue of Liberty.

The Future of 'Just Another Day...'

Lately I've been contemplating the future of my blog. I love blogging. I want to do it more often, but for some reason I stop myself from writing about things that I once would have written about without a second thought. These days, I'm torn about sharing our general life (for those of you bored enough to read it), sharing specifically about Chase and his special heart (for all of the heart community who follows us) and sharing my feelings/opinions on things, some of which may certainly upset some of those in my "real life." Then you've got the random things I like to share, such as recipes, shopping finds, and of course pictures and videos of the kids (mostly for our family, all of whom live far away). I don't want to bore some of you readers who are not interested in hearing about the latest advancements in treatments for congenital heart defects. I don't want to lose readers by just posting the latest pics/videos of my kids and their antics. I don't want to upset those in my inner-circle by venting about some of the things I'm currently struggling with.

I'm not a shopping blog. I'm not a cooking blog. I'm not a CHD blog.

I don't know what I am.

I do know that I just want to be free to be honest about my life. I want to share my struggles and seek support from my readers. I want to be funny and entertaining and draw people back to my blog. I want to interact with my readers more and get to know who is out there following these posts.

I don't want to be judged. I don't want to be alienated. I don't want my blog to serve as a replacement for a relationship with me for my family and friends.

So what's next? What do I do now?

I don't know.

I've thought about making my blog private so I can choose who I allow to access it. That way I'll know who my audience is (and isn't) and can write my posts accordingly without worrying who I may possibly upset.

I've thought about starting another blog that focuses only on Chase and his journey with HLHS. This way all of my heart friends can get the latest info on Chase's heart without having to sort through, say, my latest Amazon purchases. I don't mind the upkeep of two blogs, but I know this would result in some people having to check TWO blogs for all of the latest updates on us.  :)

I've thought about keeping this blog mostly generic but include info on Chase's heart journey, then starting another anonymous blog (not linked from here) where I can have an outlet to share the thoughts and feelings I can't talk about here. That would result in essentially me talking to myself for the most part, since I wouldn't have any readers initially and no one would know it was me writing it.

There are so many options to consider and I don't yet know how I'm going to move forward. Ultimately I feel I need to make a change of some kind, whether it be big or small.

What do YOU think?

I'd really like to know.

The Gift that Gives Back

As I mentioned yesterday, I'm super excited about the gift I purchased for my mom's birthday. Since I was able to give it to her at her birthday dinner last night, I can finally share it with all of you!

So to be honest, when I first saw this item, I knew I needed one for myself. I ordered one right away and am completely in love with it. Not only is it beautifully stunning, but it means oh-so-very much to me on a personal/emotional level. Now that I'm sure you're wondering what it is, let me show you:

This beautiful heart pendant was inspired by the all-too-short life of sweet little Mia Marrone:

Mia Grace Marrone was diagnosed in utero with Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome. Mia was born on April 29, 2010.

At 6 days old, Mia underwent her first of three open-heart surgery, the Norwood at the renowned Children's Hospital of Philadelphia.

On July 25, 2010, at 87 days old, Mia's battle with HLHS sadly came to an end.

Mia Grace Marrone is survived by her parents, Jennifer & Ray Marrone, her older brother Cole and her twin brother Madden.

The Mia Marrone Heart Foundation is raising money and awareness for congenital heart defects, specifically HLHS, by making this beautiful Mia Marrone HLHS Swarovski heart pendant available for purchase. ALL of the money used to purchase these beautiful charms goes directly to fund research and raise awareness for HLHS.

If you have a special heart child in your life -- son, daughter, grandson, granddaughter, niece, nephew, cousin, etc. -- this gorgeous pendant can serve as a beautiful tribute to your precious heart warrior. I know for me this purchase was completely for sentimental reasons: I feel honored to wear my son's special heart around my neck and love the opportunity to talk about what he's been through when others notice my lovely and unusual pendant. Please visit the Mia Marrone Heart Foundation Facebook page for an order form if you're interested in purchasing one of these pendants. UPDATE: They are now available in both pink AND blue pendants! Gorgeous!

I do believe my mom enjoyed her new pendant in honor of her grandson, and I know I cherish mine. And I will tell you that photos just don't do this beautiful heart justice. Here's another photo with the flash... those Swarovski crystals sure do sparkle!

Thank you to Jennifer Marrone and the Mia Marrone Heart Foundation for making these beautiful pendants available and for all you're doing to raise awareness and support CHD research!

To Do's

Hubs and I are having my mom and grandparents over for dinner tonight to celebrate my mom's birthday (yay!), so I've had a busy day or two! Last night, I put together a list of all that I needed to do. There was the food: PW's lasagna, salad, garlic-cheese sweet bread, the cake: chocolate with chocolate mousse filling with vanilla buttercream frosting and a chopped Hershey's bar coating, and of course the laundry and cleaning: bathroom, kitchen, sweep floors, dust, pick up toys, etc. There was the card to fill out and the gift to wrap (I'm oh-so-excited about the gift... will share more soon!). And let's not forget how I totally forgot Chase had his PT appointment here this morning (it wasn't until his awesome PT and OT knocked on my door and I looked through the peep-hole thingy that I remembered... and I was up to my elbows in buttercream!). Then of course came a quick run to the grocery store with the kiddos before lunch.

Whew!

I say all of this to tell you how I had to laugh at myself when, quite literally, I added "shower" to my to do list. Yes, people, I need to be reminded to take a shower. When you're living in a world of snow days, dirty diapers, snack times, laundry folding, cake baking, lasagna making and lunch cooking, it becomes necessary to have that little reminder that during nap time -- my ONLY "me" time for the day -- I must use that time wisely and get myself a shower. It's so funny to me that before kids, I would have never needed to be reminded to take a shower, much less have to schedule myself a shower. Life sure does change when you have kids, but I contend it's all for the better! Well, at least most of the time... ;)

Little Miss Observant

The other night I was helping LO get ready for bed (we have a standard nightly routine with BOTH kids, which I highly recommend), and it was time to choose which story she wanted me to read to her. To my surprise, she chose The Lion King.

I was surprised since she hadn't been interested in reading this story yet (she got it last month for Christmas) and wasn't sure what exactly about it had piqued her interest. On a side note, she hasn't seen the movie yet, either... I'm concerned that it'd be too dark or scary for her.

So I tucked her into her bed and snuggled up next to her and began reading. She followed along nicely and was very engaged in the story. She would occasionally interrupt me to ask, "Who's that?" since there were so many characters in the story, most with unusual names.

Fast-forward to when Simba returns to fight his evil Uncle Scar and take back his rightful place as King of Pride Rock. There is an illustration where Simba is fighting one of the hyenas. LO interrupts me to point something out that I didn't even notice. I do believe the child found a "typo" in the illustration -- obviously not in words but in the picture -- I'm not sure what you'd call it. A misillustration? Anywho, she kept asking me about it and I kept looking, trying to figure out what she was referring to.

Here, I'll let you take a look. Do you see what my 3-1/2 year old saw? Something is wrong with the picture below:

Do you see it? Do ya?

I'll give you a hint... It's a little somethin' extra on ol' Simba over there.

Go look again. You know you see it!

Okay, I'll give show you where it is:

What IS that? Honestly, it looks to be a lion's paw, complete with claws and everything. But it can't be one of Simba's paws, since they are both on the hyena. I thought maybe it was just some fur or something? But I see claws.

So help me, is this a drawing typo or what? I still can't get over the fact that my little daughter was observant enough to notice such a little thing.

Snow Day!

Yes, along with what has to be at least 80% of the country, we too received our share of snow here today. And of course I had to get pictures of the kids out in it. Honestly, I was snapping away as quickly as possible because this momma has NO LOVE for the snow. I'm happy to report that my sweet little boy may very well be a momma's boy. He had no love for the snow, either.

Now LO, of course, is another story. She's like her daddy and doesn't mind being out in the freezing cold snow. So she played while daddy shoveled. I popped out with Chase long enough to get a few pics, then brought my boy back inside so we could both get nice n' warm. For the record, he's hilarious. He sat on the floor in front of his bookshelf and "read" pretty much every single one of them while daddy and LO were outside. He sure does love his quiet time when his loud sister isn't in his face! Haha!

FINALLY! I get to go outside!

Don't I look beautiful in my snow gear? Never mind the fact I've been wearing this same winter coat since I was 18 months old...

My girl... she's gorgeous!

Chase was NOT happy about this photo op. Especially since he put his hand in the snow and realized how cold it was.
And with his new winter coat, seriously, folks... he can't put his arms down!  ((name that movie!))

Did I mention he wasn't happy?

Now daddy took his paci away. This is one very unhappy experience for my boy!

LO just looks beautiful... Chase is wondering why no one is getting him the heck outta there!

Well, well, well... Apparently this snow stuff isn't too bad if you're standing in it!

Hmmm... still not happy about this cold snow stuff on his hands.

Worst. Mommy. Ever. I made hubs lay Chase in the snow on his back so I could take some pics.
Guess what? Chase was NOT a fan!

LO helping daddy shovel the snow.

Fun! Fun! Fun!

Not so fun?

More fun!

Yes, my daughter played basketball in the snow. And for the record, this shot went in! :)

Interview with Bodie's Mommy

Here's a link to an amazing interview with Amy Bennett, mom to 11-month-old Bodie, one of Chase's little heart buddies. Amy shares her story from the moment she first heard of Bodie's diagnosis of Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome, through his delivery and his three heart surgeries.

I've told Amy that I think Chase and Bodie are long-lost brothers... they look a lot alike and have had similar experiences with HLHS (except that Bodie preferred a lot of extra attention and had an unusual penchant for infections). Bodie also has a big sister, Sierra, who is the same age as LO. Lots of similarities between our sweet little heart families!

Click here to listen to Amy's interview.